Tuesday, November 2, 2010
On the other hand, if you are able to make for an appointment, is it so difficult to just make it for that appointment? I don't know. If it's me, I be glad to let people take the lead. What's the big deal? Just follow lah? :-) Better still, I don't even need to think about the date. If I cannot make it, then join next time then or just voice it out. Am sure my friends will do something about it or rearrange.
If we make things difficult for others and people abide to us, does that make us feel important? Would we feel better? I wonder... BK, when will you ever learn? I seriously thought that after P left, you will change. But you are still the same after all this time. Is it just because you are busy, you can make things difficult for others? The worse of it, HY is the one who got it from you. Is it because she is nice that you can make her look bad?
Saturday, February 20, 2010
Friday, November 6, 2009
Saturday, September 19, 2009
Oops, sorry that was then.... I met up with TY and C quite often and I must say having this little one--Adela has brought our friendship closer and I am thankful for that, honestly. Hmm.... lets see how she have grown in the next picture. Hahaha.... Sometimes hateful but most times lovely, its like having a lover--a love-hate releationship. :-) As you can see in the next two pics of her in yellow tees... I took long time to really 'bribe' her into letting me play with her. So we were saying how babies can be eomotionally manipulative. Hahhaa... and you can see how they know they can 'train' us to be obedient to them. And it's funny because'we adults actually enjoy the process. Lest you think I am bitching about it, well, I actually enjoy it too. I just kinda reflect on teh whole process and sometimes thought it's funny. Very funny. I remember how I first look at her fragile little body, which was difficult to carry until a little baby who wants to be carried. The first she let me carried her, I understand how parents felt when they first carry their newborn--the warmth that slowly raises up from your stomach to your eyes. The feeling of warmth to sadness to happiness that slowly well up to become tears in your eyes. So drama. Hahaha... It might get close to how parents felt but I guess it's along that line. Always like to carry her when I see her until I felt bad sometimes cause I thought I was almost harassing her. Hahaha.... But when she stretched her hands out to ask me to carry, I can't wait to do so.
Since my relationship, she's been part of my pillar of strength. Thankful that TY, C and her are here, as well as many of my friends who althought never mentioned anything, I know they cared and wnat to help me treat the bad situation as part of life and lived it off. But like I said in my msn: life is just so short, why not be happy and lived it well. So I guess teh time now is lived and learn and show more care and concern to others and live it well. Every step is a learnign process, isn't it?
And speaking of learn, days in NIE is tough on many occasions but many times a enjoyable learning process. Am happy to be back at the learning environment. Look at our science lesson on meal worms for example. We were all scrambling getting excited and scared at the same time over little mealworms. You should see our reaction. Some of us acted like kids while a few actually cried out because they got too scared at the sight of the worms. But seriuously Its only as small as your thumb. :-)...
Hope you enjoy the latest post. I'll be back... soon. For now, hope you enjoy the bolg, if there's anyone reading it. :-)
Saturday, June 6, 2009
Monday, April 13, 2009
My heart is aching at the moment and it is hard to control. Never know I have to face this feeling again. I used to face heartache only because dates don't work out and it was real easy as time goes by. Am I a pro in that? I hope not, that probably make me a failure in developing relaitonships. Haha... It just didn't work out I guess. And I have become strong at that area where if it doesn't I can easily pick myself again.
But this time round, it's different. I guess both of us trustingly gave our hearts to each other. We tried for years to work things out. I have to admit that there are some things work while some remained the same. And the issues that remained the same ultimately took over me and my emotions and I completely lost myself thinking that by just being upset and angry, the other party will take notice. I took it for granted that the other party will listen to me when I get angry. I also thought that by only getting upset and not telling it, I am actually not protecting the other party but rather exposing to more hurt than I thought. Chemistry between us in all areas just keep going downhill. The more I tried to save, the worse it got. I remember once when the other party had to sit me down to talkl bout the problems. I was forced till the other party's eyes went red, almost with tears did I actually squeeze my problems out. Finally when I mentioned a break-up at the end, it was the last straw for the other party. I made that silly mistake. The other never want to talked about it anymore except that we are unhappy and that we just didn't work out, so it is better to break it before we 'kill' each other off and hate each other forever. The other party's heart had also closed up to me by then, I couldn't never enter the heart anymore. I really wished I could turn back time.
Some people would say that it things work between two party, it will just work. I used to believe that too. But during our two months' break before reconfirming the break, I looked and asked about many friends who are in a relationship, I gathered form them how things can last only because you planned and allowed yourself to change and grow. One also has to learn to open up and speak his/her mind freely so that communication will transcend between the two parties. I also had to learn about how feelings changed because love will not forever be fireworks in your heart but rather a spark and flame which you will have to constantly light it up to keep it going. In other words, it will slowly become everyday life but you know you say everything to him or her because the other party is your best friend, your partner and your companion. I really wished I could have the other party to built taht up with me again. I guessed I realized it too late now. Whenever I think of the good times, my heart just ached like a tiredness that I have never experienced. When I remmeber the bad times, I keep blaming myself for putting the other party through all the issues and why I haven't learnt all tis time? Although the other party ess I told my friends that I had a good temper and was the person who hiold the relationship, deep down, I knew he didn't hate me but was disappointed that I wasn't understanding enough to make changes for the other party. I really don't know what my frined told the other party about what I said before but I learnt not to pur out everything from now on cause they might be taken in the worng context under different situations.
The other party always thought I was unhappy. Honestly, I really dunno why that was so. However, I thought that by leaving that thought lying around, the other party will work harder for us but I didn't think it will be a future catalyst for the break that lead to a point of no salvation. Now I know, no matter, always remmeber to encourage your loved ones so they understand that you love them and that everything is fine. Sigh... a little too late.